As we search to know ourselves, our purpose is to develop ourselves. The big question is: What are we developing? We are either developing Star Qualities, skills that help us develop our potential and make amazing things happen in our experiences and relationships, or Negative Mental Habits, those behaviors that limit our potential. Because wellness results in developing Star Qualities, our next few Wellness Wednesdays will focus on how we can develop these positive habits in ourselves, our children, and students.

“The highest reward for a person’s toil is not what they get for it,

but what they become by it.”

John Ruskin

Courage: responding with meaningful action in spite of fear. Fear can lead us to shut down or respond in inappropriate ways.

  • List things you fear. These can range from heights, to spiders, to failing, or to the opinions of others.
  • Picture these playing out over time in two ways: with courageous action to resolve it or without courageous action.
  • When working with children, point out bravery or courageous action when seen in books, movies, or real life. Identify how courageous action can lead to positive results.
  • Share with children a time when you did something courageous though fearful, like public speaking or confessing to breaking a window as a child. Watch for and praise examples of courage when you see them in others.

Creativity: being inventive, full of ideas; using ideas to solve problems.

  • Think of ways you are creative.
  • Self-expression is part of the creative process. What can you do to create a safe environment for children to share their creative ideas?
  • Practice this problem-solving process with others:
  1. What is the problem?
  2. What solutions can we try?
  3. What are the good and bad points of these solutions?
  4. What do you think of the solution that we tried?

Curiosity: having a desire to know and learn; willing to leave what is comfortable to explore the unknown.

  • When was the last time you experienced something new?
  • What is something you would like to know more about?
  • Use encouraging language with children when it comes to exploration and discovery. For example, “Hey, that’s interesting. Let’s find out more about it.”
  • Children are naturally curious and ask lots of questions. Do your best to answer their questions.

What is one thing you can do this week to develop one of these Star Qualities?

From our Top 20 team, Willow, Tom, and Kevin, who help others develop Star Qualities.

Paul Bernabei
Top 20 Training