Having reflected on ways to develop connections during the last several Wellness Wednesdays, I have come to a conclusion: we are made for connections. The countless ways we can connect reveal the existential need to connect. Our physical, mental, and emotional well-being is dependent on connections. From the beginning moments of our lives when we are connected to our mothers by an umbilical cord, we seek to maintain connection in various ways throughout our lives. Even if in unhealthy ways, like a teenager joining a gang, we see this essential need and strong desire.

The profound power of memory we possess as human beings is a constant means by which connection takes place. Through memory we stay connected to people and experiences from our past. I was reminded of this power of memory on the 4th of July. When I was eight years old, our family drove to a nearby town to attend that evening’s firework display. As the firework show began to wind down, my father suggested that we start walking to our car to avoid the traffic rush. While walking by Washington School, we looked back to take in the finale of the fireworks.

As hundreds of fireworks filled the sky above the American flag and the cracking sound got louder and louder, my father, who had been standing next to me, jumped into the bushes in front of the school. This strange event filled me with confusion and fear. My mother went to him and helped him get up. It wasn’t until we got to our car that I was told that my father, who had served four years in the Army during World War II, had experienced a flashback.

Memories connect. Memories connected my father to a battle ground on an island in the Pacific. Memories connect me to seeing my father jump into bushes every time I hear a firecracker.

Let your mind take you to memories…some may be joyful, some may be sad…of people, places, and experiences to which you will forever be connected.

From our team…Willow, Kevin, and Tom…memories of whom fill me with gratitude

Paul Bernabei, Director
Top 20 Training