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I’m writing this week’s Wellness Wednesday after returning from a funeral. I did not know Mary, but I have known her wonderful son Steve since he was in high school 30 years ago. I attended Mary’s funeral because I wanted to express to her my appreciation for the way...

Our attention on mistakes and failure for the last few weeks has really focused on one fundamental question: What happens to the inner life of a person when a mistake or failure takes place? The messages people receive in these moments frequently result in their...

Last week’s Wellness Wednesday focused on having a mindset of being willing to fail in order to ultimately succeed. This mindset leads to growth and development. Unfortunately, another mindset prevents learning and growth. With this dysfunctional mindset, we are more...

When I walked into the house a few days ago, my granddaughter Isla was juggling scarves. Her third-grade class had been learning to juggle in gym class. Because the floating scarves were easier to catch, she was doing quite well. Knowing her natural desire to try...

Let me introduce you to two wonderful people who make amazing things happen each day. Dori and Kate are identical twins who married identical twins. They are teachers and leaders at Stillpoint School on San Juan Island off the coast of Washington state. Kevin and I...

The Flashlight Story in last week’s Wellness Wednesday reminds us of the damaging and limiting impact our experience of mistakes and failure can have on our lives. Our friend Michael lived with a terrified belief and fear of making a mistake for over 40 years. Then he...

The question we are considering for our next few Wellness Wednesdays is: What happens to us in the moment of being wrong or failing and how does what happens in that moment impact our inner life (our thoughts, beliefs, feelings, and future decisions)? A powerful story...

Wellness Wednesday -April 19, 2023: MISTAKES AND FAILURE Experiences we encounter have a major impact on the quality of our lives. One of these powerful experiences occurs when we make mistakes or fail. Given the importance of these moments in our lives, the next few...

Kevin and I enjoyed a special day with students in Caledonia, Minnesota a week ago. As we discussed with them the journey of becoming the best version of themselves, we talked about the importance of belonging…a connection that occurs when we are accepted by others...

Research indicates that we say roughly 50,000 words to ourselves every day. Of those, 77% are negative or counter-productive. That results in feeding what Jeff Butorac calls our Inner Rival, self-talk filling our head with self-doubt and negativity. Given that...